Many people believe that confidence is something you either have or have not. Perhaps it is something you are born with, or something that magically appears after a certain age. Thankfully this is not the case.
Confidence is a learned behavior and anyone can acquire it. By the same logic, anyone can lose confidence or have it knocked out of them.
Why is confidence important in blogging?
A great deal of blogging happens on the surface. When we happen across a new blog we do not give it much time before making assumptions. It is like non-verbal communication, we look for cues and skim impressions rather than investing time to dig deep.
If you, and therefore your blog, lacks confidence, then your reader will not have confidence in you or your blog.
The danger with giving this advice is people tend to swing like a pendulum from confidence-lack to aggressive arrogance. We all know that dialing down to zero or up to 11 is not the right approach but getting the balance right can be tricky.
Happily the middle-ground is something you can cultivate with practice. This middle ground is what I describe as blogging assertively. You do not have to come across as an ass to be confident, it is not even about having all the answers, telling people they are wrong or winning awards.
What are the traits of assertive bloggers?
- Accept feedback – Being confident does not mean being an island
- Are generous – Think about it. What does generosity demonstrate?
- Look good – Take care over your blog, design and comments, make your confidence visible
- Share wisdom – This isn’t about beating people with your opinions. Offer advice while accepting differing opinions
- Are polite – Say please and thank you, while accepting thanks and compliments graciously
- Achieve and praise – Do not minimize or boast your own achievements, be generous with your praise of others success and news.
- Say their piece – Speak up when necessary while accepting others right to do the same. Do not rant, stay calm and outline your thoughts rationally.
- Know – Have faith in own abilities. If you do not, who else will?
- Succeed – Decide on goals and work towards them. If you do not have goals, how will you know what success means for you? If you are directionless, how will you know you have arrived?
- Ask for help – It is not wimpy to ask for help, it actually shows confidence and courage
- Are not doormats – Value your own time and the time of others. Do not give in to time leaches and freebie hunters. Do not feel guilty about saying no.
- Succinct – Do not waffle, get to the point. If you believe something is true, say it without qualification.
You can be confident now. You owe it to yourself. This is not something you are “allowed” only after a threshold of visitors or technorati ranking.
If you feel like you are not getting respect show that you deserve it! Keep blogging assertively and see the change reflected in others. It works!